Audra and Elisa interrogate the modern phenomenon of gender (or more accurately, sex) reveal parties, the troubling consumerism surrounding them, and how we can make rituals more meaningful. This episode pairs best with celebrating birth instead of perceived gender and accepting you have no business making at-home explosives.  Image and Video Time Stamps 11:25 Original Gender Reveal Cake 15:30 2017 Arizona Fire 18:20 Northern California Fire (from 0:30-0:40) 24:30 Alligator Gender Reveal  Book Recommendation  Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters   Keep the conversation going  Email us at culturecolander@gmail.com Follow us! Sources “Alligator 'Gender Reveal Party' Causes Controversy,” BBC “Couple Sentenced in Plea Deal for Sparking Deadly El Dorado Fire in Gender Reveal Mishap,” ABC7 “The Deadly History of Gender Reveal Parties,” Huck Mag “Grandmother Killed by Inadvertently Made 'Pipe Bomb' at Gender-Reveal Party: Sheriff,” Bill Hutchinson, ABC News High Gloss and Sauce, Facebook “Officials Release Video from Gender Reveal Party that Ignited a 47,000-acre Wildfire,” Andrea Diaz, CNN “The Origin and Evolution of Gender Reveal Parties,” Hannie Petra, Mpasho “The Thin Blue Line: The History of the Pregnancy Test,” National Institute of Health  “Wildfires, Alligators and Jelly: The Brief, Chaotic History of the Gender Reveal Party,” Zahra Manji, Prospect “Woman Who Popularized Gender-Reveal Parties Says Her Views On Gender Have Changed”, Lulu Garcia-Navarro, NPR