Have you ever woken up one day and thought… "Who even am I anymore?" In this episode of The Soulie Insider, I'm talking about what happens when life shakes you so hard that the confident, steady version of you feels like a total stranger. Whether it's parenting shifts, relationship endings, or even retirement, those moments can strip back everything you thought you knew about yourself. I'll walk you through simple, grounding practices to help you recalibrate when your confidence feels like it's slipped through your fingers. You'll learn how to use pen-to-paper exercises to remember your worth, why sitting in the "grey space" of not knowing is where the biggest growth happens, and how to begin reconnecting with yourself without rushing to fix everything. This is a conversation for the high-functioning women, the soulies who look steady on the outside but inside feel the chaos of nervous system dysregulation, burnout, or survival mode. If you've ever thought "Why can't I relax?" or "What if I've outgrown this version of me?" This episode is your reminder that you're not broken, you're just being asked to re-meet yourself. At the end, I'll share a little "homework" to help you start celebrating your wins, owning your resilience, and re-learning to love yourself right where you're at. I'd love to know… has life ever shaken you so much that you didn't recognise yourself anymore? Come and share with me over on Instagram @gaylewilson_, I'd love to hear your story. Ready to live differently? Join the Soul Care Healing Method. In this episode we cover: Why confidence can feel like it disappears overnight when life change. How identity and confidence are linked, and what happens when that identity cracks Pen-to-paper exercise: "What's great about me?" Creating your lifeline timeline with wins, challenges, and bounce-backs Common triggers for identity slips: parenting, relationships, retirement The power of sitting in the "grey space" instead of rushing to fix Gentle homework for self-reflection and self-celebration Final reminder that confidence is built on your proven resilience Podcast Sponsor The Podcast is proudly sponsored by Proactive Finance Group. Whether you're an essential worker, in allied health, self-employed or buying your first home, they make the loan process streamlined, clear, and less stressful. Proactive Finance Group works for you, not the banks—keeping you informed and supported every step of the way. They're more than mortgage brokers, they're your partners in making home ownership a reality.   Podcast sponsor: Proactive Finance Group Contact: Hayley De Jong Phone: 0400 000 036 Email: hayley@proactivefinancegroup.com.au Resources mentioned in this episode Join the Soulie Insider Facebook Group Free meditation track Free micro method / our first steps personal development mini courses Soul Care Healing Method Gayle Wilson on Instagram Gayle Wilson website Gayle's book: Where the Waves Break Gayle Wilson on Facebook Gayle Wilson on YouTube Gayle's workshop