What if the confidence you're chasing isn't missing at all, it's already within you, waiting to be reclaimed with clarity, boundaries, and self-trust? In this episode of The Soulie Insider, I'm calling out the myths we've been sold about confidence and why so many high-achieving women still feel like they're winging it, even when success looks solid on paper. This isn't about faking it till you make it or chasing external validation, that only fuels high-functioning anxiety symptoms and keeps you stuck in survival mode. You'll hear me talk about why confidence feels shaky despite achievements, and how it often ties back to nervous system dysregulation and the constant fight or flight response we live in. I'll share my four-step approach to reclaiming confidence from the inside out: reflection, celebrating small wins, setting boundaries that protect your energy, and practising self-compassion. This conversation is about more than just mindset, it's about embodied healing and gentle somatic recalibration so that confidence becomes steady, lived-in, and sustainable. By the end, you'll feel supported in creating confidence that doesn't collapse when someone questions your decisions, your work, or even your outfit. It's the kind of recalibration every high-performing woman deserves. Which of the four steps spoke to you most today? Come share it with me on Instagram @gaylewilson_ . I'd love to hear how you're reclaiming your confidence with compassion and recalibration. Ready to live differently? Join the Soul Care Healing Method. In this episode we cover: Why confidence feels shaky despite success The "confidence gap", 70% of women leaders struggle External validation vs inner alignment How high-functioning burnout hides behind polished success Why "fake it till you make it" fuels performance and exhaustion Four steps to reclaim confidence: Reflect on your values Own your small wins Set boundaries that protect your energy Practise self-compassion How slow living for high achievers builds resilience Closing reflections and encouragement Podcast Sponsor The Podcast is proudly sponsored by Proactive Finance Group. Whether you're an essential worker, in allied health, self-employed or buying your first home, they make the loan process streamlined, clear, and less stressful. Proactive Finance Group works for you, not the banks—keeping you informed and supported every step of the way. They're more than mortgage brokers, they're your partners in making home ownership a reality.   Podcast sponsor: Proactive Finance Group Contact: Hayley De Jong Phone: 0400 000 036 Email: hayley@proactivefinancegroup.com.au   Resources mentioned in this episode Join the Soulie Insider Facebook Group Free meditation track Free micro method / our first steps personal development mini courses Soul Care Healing Method Gayle Wilson on Instagram Gayle Wilson website Gayle's book: Where the Waves Break Gayle Wilson on Facebook Gayle Wilson on YouTube Gayle's workshop