What if the reason you haven’t been able to quit drinking isn’t willpower, motivation, or another missing strategy—but the fact that you’re still surface dwelling?In this episode, I make a bold invitation: get disgusted. Not with yourself—but with how much time has been wasted circling the same patterns.If you’re a woman over 40 who can’t moderate her drinking and keeps “researching” sobriety without real traction, this snippet is for you. I break down why consuming endless quit-lit, podcasts, and plans can actually keep you stuck—and why real change only begins when you choose one path, commit to it, and stop hovering at the surface.We also talk about the danger of elaborate plans, perfectionism, and starting over every morning without support—patterns that quietly sabotage long-term sobriety.In this episode, you'llrecognize how surface dwelling disguises itself as effort while blocking real progress.feel permission to stop overthinking and start choosing.understand why disgust—when directed at wasted time, not yourself—can be a powerful catalyst for change.clarify what one meaningful, needle-moving step toward sobriety actually looks like.Before your head hits the pillow tonight, decide: no more surface dwelling. Choose one new action that moves the needle—and start with support. Whether that means joining a community, reaching out for help, or committing to a structured path, today is the day to stop circling and start moving.And if you want a clear, supported place to begin, Juicy January, the 31-day sobriety challenge for women over 40, is coming soon. Stay close—links are on the way.Are you getting the FREE "Sober-Living Letters?" The Snippets are only half the story. The messages you get from Becca via email are just as helpful. No junk, no fluff. Sign up now and I’ll immediately send your first two life-changing tools:A free copy of my #1 Bestselling book—"Prostitute to Professor" and A free breathing guide—to help you regain control in those high-stress moments. Click here and then check your inbox: https://recoveringwithbecca.com/sober-living-letters/Email Becca anytime: becca@beccajacobson.comThis podcast explores the journey of sober living and sobriety, highlighting how health, mindset shifts, and overcoming regret from binge drinking and drinking can lead to powerful habits that support an alcohol-free lifestyle, especially for professionals and business women seeking self-improvement, confidence, clarity, and lasting empowerment.