In this Sandy Clam eppy of The Labia Lounge with Lexy from Alive To Enjoy we delved into some things that get sand in our clams. Lexy shares vulnerably about her first time sexual experiences, how she felt pressured to just "get it out of the way" so she wasn't a "virgin" anymore, and how a lack of safety and self worth influenced her sex life to the point where her vag started literally clamping shut!We chat about all sorts of important concepts that, if you grew up with a yoni, you'll probably find relatable and equally infuriating.Topics covered in this episode:- The attraction to "bad boys" and the value of safety- The importance of safety for pleasure, vulnerability, intimacy, and deeper connections- Lack of safety leading to issues like vaginismus and painful sex- Growing up with a single dad and lack of femininity in their life- Shame, confusion, and pressure around sexuality, body, and period- Importance of setting boundaries and standards in relationships- Holding men to higher standards and expressing needs and desires- Men lacking self-development communities and the importance of teaching and learning from each other- Challenges of pursuing an extraordinary love and loneliness- Saying no to those who don't align and not settling in relationshipsPlus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!Check out Lexy's work here: https://www.alivetoenjoy.com/about-lexy and follow her on the 'Gram here: https://www.instagram.com/alivetoenjoy/?hl=en*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://youtu.be/LtyN8BQg-zkOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.