Borderlines and Narcissists - Codependent’s Focus On Cluster B's Is Not The Way of Healing. A.J. Mahari explains why continuing to focus son a borderline or narcissist Ex and/or parent or friend is not the way to heal and in fact will block you getting into the action of a formal healing and recovery journey. Even when you are "out" of the relationship after leaving or being ghosted or discarded how do you emotionally and focus-wise heal and totally get out of the relationship, detach, and move forward without recycling.