Launching into Connection with Confidence // Tamara Lichfield

Certified trauma support specialist, resiliency professional and life coach Tamara Lichfield joins Courtney and Carley to talk about establishing connections from a place of confidence. Tamara discusses post-traumatic growth, stepping outside of comfort zones, exercising integrity, and avoiding making assumptions. This episode is the third episode in a 3-part series about preparing to make lasting connections. Be sure to listen to Part 1 ("Emotional Self Check") and Part 2 ("Sympathy, Empathy and Boundaries") for the full message from Tamara.     Resources: Connect with Tamara Email: Becomingshatterproof@gmail.com http://www.becomingshatterproof.us https://www.facebook.com/becomingshatterproof/   Connect with Courtney and Carley    heysisterpodcast.org https://www.instagram.com/theheysisterpodcast/ https://www.facebook.com/heysisterpodca   Book referenced The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (a Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz     Show Timeline:  0:00 Guest and topic introduction (recap of parts 1 and 2)   4:40 What is your story? Healing wounded parts of your story. Post-traumatic growth. "Four agreements" overview.    7:00 Agreement One: Be impeccable with your word. Agreement Two: Don't take anything personally. Intent vs. impact. Positive self-talk vs. negative self-talk.     12:15 Agreement Three: Don't make assumptions. Cognitive fusion. Asking curiosity questions. Relational trauma: assumptive reality is shattered.    19:00 Agreement Four: Always do your best whatever you're pursuing. Stepping outside your comfort zone.    21:45 Concluding thoughts