Episode 157 - An "apology" to avoid consequences is not an apology, it's manipulation (and more!)...

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 157 - "An "apology" to avoid consequences is not an apology, it's manipulation (and other things that help you to make an effective apology)" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideImagine receiving (what feels like) a heartfelt apology and finding out it was actually an attempt to manipulate you. Unfortunately, this happens all too often. As we talked about in our last episode an effective apology can repair and strengthen a relationship and an ineffective one can further erode and sometimes destroy it. In this episode we'll get into how an apology can actually be a manipulation that is doing further harm to everyone involved, ways you may be manipulating or being manipulated and how to recognize these manipulation tactics. We'll also provide you with some additional tips and considerations for making an effective apology. In this episode we cover:Our villain eras...cynical or silly?How manipulating someone impacts and compromises our needsThe destructive seeds manipulation plantsThe importance of feeling our way through apologiesHow an ineffective apology can create anxietyWhen someone keeps bringing up something that happened a long time agoClaire's experience of having a personal development tool used to manipulate herUsing the shame spiral as a form of manipulationCentering the person who has been harmedEpisode References:The Apology Blueprint episode - Episode 156 - The 6 essential parts of an effective apologyThe guilt and shame episode - Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series: The difference between guilt and shameThe episode we talk about emotional processing - Episode 68 - That’s not rambling, it’s meeting your needsThe clearing niggles episode - Episode 61 - Friendship Series: Clearing NigglesEpisode 28 - An antidote to anxietyNote: Murphy's Law was a principle (the actual phrasing is debated) coined by Edward A. Murphy Jr., an Air Force engineer working at Edwards Air Force Base in the late 1940s. The law's origins are linked to a specific incident where a technician wired a sensor backwards, rendering it useless.Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideFind our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.