It’s Valentine’s Day and I couldn’t think of anything more romantic to talk about than polyamory. Recently, it’s been having a cultural moment and in this episode, I question if open relationships create an illusion of freedom. To help answer that question I read the latest in poly “feminist” discourse, Molly Roden Winter’s novel, More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. I compare her relationship to Simone De Beauvoir and Jean-Paul Satre's and read an excerpt from The Woman Destroyed. After that, we investigate what primal panic is and how it’s  activated in non-monogamous relationships by reading Polysecure by Jessica Fern.  References & Mentions in the Show:  Polysecure, Jessica Fern  Polyamory, The Ruling Class’s Latest Fad by Austin Tyler Harper  The Woman Destroyed, Simone De Beauvoir  More: A Memoir of Open Marriage, Molly Roden Winter